Some of what he's said is true and some was his perception (mostly the men issues). I've never ever, ever cheated on him ever. Not even an EA. I have been a devoted wife and mother for 17 years to him and only him.
The work issues/career and being gone is totally true. Being critical, nagging, begging, pleading of him true. I have been DB/DR/DB coach for about a year now and basically trying to get him to open up to some communication. I mostly 180 such as not engaging in the debate, trying to act as if, not reminding him of R, not talking about R or our future, went PT at work so I could be home every morning and night for 3 years now, made concious effort to stay with him at the xmas party, more and more and lots more sex, lost 15 lbs, started wearing sexier clothes (he's visual), shaved the forest at his request, and many other things. His primary Love Language is Physical. Read DB, 5 Love Languages, doing the Love Dare, watched Fireproof, took him on dates alone even ballroom dancing.
We are talking tonight after he returned home from a trip with my son. I'm at my parents.
Let the sideshow begin....
Me 44 H 46 S 13 D 11 Married: 17 Dated: 7
Bomb 7/1//08 ILUBINILWY 2nd Bomb 4/3/09 I'm Leaving You 3rd Bomb 11/2009 - The 3 YR Affair is discovered
