I love IceAge too !!! And I have been dancing along in my chair to music all day too.
As for work... I thikn you should do whatever you want and if he then sees even LESS of you, would that work, have an effect on him, if he notices he NEVER sees you, would he then miss you?? I think Julia missed that he is a News Editor, so works nights to get the paper out.. no chance to leave early hey ! Did you ever ask him about the possibility of that rota of all the Editors, so he could have at least one night when he is home by 9??? So it COULD be possible to spend a little more time with you?
As for the girlfriend.. can you go on a Saturday, when he works anyway? Or.. just go.. its only one extra week every few months afterall, where he wouldnt see you. And not much is going to 'happen' or shift until May anyway! So.. go.. make him miss you.
Oh and reading your description of how your life is with him... it beggars belief.. it reads as impossible... impossible to have ANY sort of R with someone, neverlone a HEALTHY one under the conditions he is expecting it to thrive (or even survive) under.. he's crazy. Nuts. You cannot have an R with someone when you work 4 pm - 1am and they work all day and even weekends you are in bed till midday and have one day a week off (usually). Its madness. I cannot believe how blind he is. I dont believe he is 'happy' with that.. its just his comfort zone, all he knows, all he is capable of.. but dont forget he admitted to you, just a few weeks ago that he was lonely.
xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread