he is back, i think

[bluerain]

mdoodles, I dont think that its necessarily a bad idea for him to work his way home, you cant just jump back in without fixing the fundamental problem. That being said, have you asked him for some kind of proof that its over between them? If he cant do that, can he show you his cell phone bills? Can you go meet him at work in a hot outfit for a special lunch?

I dont think that your feelings are unfounded at all, its going to take a long time before you can trust him as deeply as you once did, and even once you feel like you have regained that, theres no guarantee that one day, 7 years from now these feelings wont rear their ugly head all over again.

You cant enforce a no contact plan if he still works with this woman, its just going to be doomed to fail, maybe this is a situation where transparency is more suited until you close on the business and he is totally out of that environment. I do think that you are at a critical point, and this is a time where all of your actions need to be taken with great care and patience. Dont beat yourself up if you backslide or have a day where your behavior makes you less than proud. You are going through a lot right now, even if you are impatient with your son, working things out with his father is totally worth it.