I think thats just it! They arent sane while this is going on. We own our house, and were discussing selling it, I told H that I didnt know how I was going to find a place that would let me have 2 150lb dogs and 3 ferrets, his solution: put them all to sleep. He loves them as much as Ive ever seen him love anything, and to suggest ending their lives so he could stick it in a 22 married bar skank truly showed me that the man I loved was MIA.

I had people tell me he was acting like a drug addict, I even asked him once if he was on drugs.

After the A ended I am seeing some of the good ol' H, but the things he said and did during that period of time were awful.

Have you tried responding to his "oh, she doesnt want to see me" with a "Yes, she does" ?

I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...