German wife still foggy

[PortlandDad]

Conundrum.

This is complicated, but here goes: One chief complaint that my W has had with me is that I never take her side on anything. It isn't true of course, but it is her perception. Anyway, in my convo yesterday with her, I told her that I am being totally transparent with her; I am hiding nothing and asked her if she would do the same. She said she would think about it.

So today, the aunt that she despises (I may have understated it earlier; she does despise her) writes on my social network site that I should call her and that my W was being a d*ck. Since my W has my password to this site, she reads it and becomes livid. She calls me this morning and lays into me about why I'm even talking to her, tells me how stupid this aunt is, that this aunt is mentally ill, etc. etc.

Then she tells me that I should go ahead and call her and she wants me to report back to her about everything that we talk about. She gave me an hour to do it, and then she expects me to call her back.

Irony? Wow. I just don't really know how to process this. I really don't want to talk to this aunt of hers, simply because she tends to be a gossip and anything said to her usually ends up (through back-channels) with my Ws family. On the other hand, I feel the desire to stand up for myself and let her know that I am not her snitch about what happens in her family, and that I can talk to whomever I want.