Partner left after 9 yrs - I finally detached!??

[mishka422]

I like the way you think Simon! I was thinking the same thing about going back to doing what Ali has been doing.

Ali, change is good. Change is important. After your convo (although it was alcohol fueled), how can you go back to not contacting him? I'm not talking about contacting him for further convo, but a once a week, touching bases thing. Even if it is only a 2 minute phone convo. It just seems like you need to keep that contact with him. Isn't it possible that you are his touchstone without him realizing that? I sense that he is self-flagillating to some extent. He doesn't feel worthy of your time, but craves it at the same time. How about you giving him the opening to take some of your time without him asking for it. It could open immense possibilities between you that could lead who knows where.

I know we say it a lot here but.......What do you have to lose?