Thanks Ian. I appreciate the advice. it really helped set my mind at ease.
Friday night my oldest daughter sat and had a really good conversation with bf and me. I think this taking it slow stuff really helps her and her sister accept things better. I will continue on down this path as it seems to be working pretty good.
Oh and btw...no thanks to you guys for giving me the mental picture of Ian being a giver. I probably could have gone my whole life without that.