Its odd. W wanted to spend Saturday together with D and I. She wanted to spend some time Friday night with us as well.
It is a milestone that she has made the distinction between me and her issues. She has clearly come to the understanding that she has trust issues that do not relate to me, that preceeded our marriage and that what happened to us would have happened to anyone she would have married.
This is a 180 from ' You're the problem! '
So she spent the morning with us. Unfortunately she had a little nausea ( I think she is feeling anxious ) and did not enjoy herself as much as she could have.
I am wondering what my next move should be.
She is on her monthlong medical leave.
She has also talked about buying a house. She is tired of moving and renting. Her lifelong ambition is to be 'settled' in one house for the rest of her life.
My God, she is only 32. She would want to settle in one house for the rest of her years.......
I still think she is looking for peace in things, like having her own home that she will be in forever....then she will be at peace. I don't think so.....
As for me, the time together today was not that great. She did her own thing and did little to interact in any significant way.
She did allow me to hug her. When I did, she physically relaxed because she carries a lot of stress.
She did ask if I was still going to the church I have been going to since she left. That was odd. Don't know what that means, but it meant something.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
