I'm glad you took the time to post about your past and the research you have done about affairs. My W is currently living with her OM She met him in Oct and was ready to moving in with him by Christmas, I did get her to stay home until Jan 27 at which point she declared she HAD to move in with him cause she didn't want to pass up this opportinuty and have it in the back of her mind for the rest of her life. I have been fairly dark (only contact about kids/finances) and detaching as I don't think I can do much until A is over. I miss her and love her very much and am willing to give her a second chance but with new rules. If you have any other advice I'd appreciate it and you can view my posts below.