The W called twice: once yesterday and once this morning. Unsurprisingly, she is sick. I feel sorry for her, and told her as much, but there is nothing I can do about it. She was in "Blame PD for everything that went wrong" mode again. I tried to just validate and listen; until she got to the part where she doesn't want to be lied to. I believe I was telling her about a conversation that I had had with her aunt via a social network site (The W really doesn't like this aunt very much). I told her that I wasn't telling the aunt anything salacious about our M, at which point the W hit me with the "I don't like to be lied to" line...
I tried to bite my tongue, but it just kinda slipped out.
"How does it feel?"
Weeeeell, that initiated a 10 minutes tirade on her end. I did calm her down by listening and validating after that, but it was a backslide. Pick myself up, dust myself off, back into the fray.
Today it was a little more subdued. She wanted a R talk. I listened and validated as best I could. She said that the kids only stayed with me because I have the money (?) and that if she would have 5 million dollars, the kids would want to be with her.
Wow. Talk about delusional. I told her that when she lived with me, I met her every material need, and she agreed. Then I asked her if she was happy during that time. She said no, that she wasn't. Ah, so my money didn't buy your happiness? She "got it" at that point. She started crying (Ah the advatage of webcams over phones) and abruptly hung up on me.
Not sure which column to chalk that one up under, but it felt like I was ahead until the game got called on account of tears.
She wired me the money to pay her two CC bills and it arrived at the bank yesterday. I called one of the CC companies for the payoff amount and it was almost the complete amount that she sent me. The other card had about half as much on it. I made a tactical decision and paid off the one with the higher interest and made a little more than minimum on the other one. I sent her an e-mail and said she would need to wire more money, or deal with the cards herself next month.
Well, that's all diary. Hope everyone out there in DB land is having a wonderful weekend.
Me40 WAW37 M18 T20 S18,14 D13 EA Bomb 6/08 Sep 11/20/08 Ret 08/09 Sep/Filed 11/09
