I'm not really sure I understand what you are asking, or saying, to me. I do not know about, or understand the "carrot" analogy. Why he does what he does is a mystery to me. He wants out of the marriage, and there is nothing I can do/say to save it.
I do have some news though. Today, I got a "marital settlement proposal" from his attorney, in the mail. He wants the house and is willing to pay me $50,000 for it. (That's pittance, in my opinion). He wants me to leave him alone. (Each party agrees not to harrass or otherwise interfere with the other party's business, private or social activities). Whew! I guess that means I cannot tell his boss what a creep he is.
