Stop thinking and planning for the future. Live in the moment. Any future thoughts/talk will drive you crazy. You can't predict what will happen so stop trying to.

IMHO, you are NOT making the changes for yourself. All this talk about knowing what your spouse is thinking or ready to work on the marriage point to saving the marriage as the reason for the changes. You won't get far unless you're honest with yourself.

If you love somebody, set them free.
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