I add my regrets too. Life itself isn't easy as it is and our now ex's just seem to go out of there way to make it worse. Have you been documenting everything in regards to the boys and your interactions with her over them? I pray that she realizes that she is using the boys against you and stops the craziness.
Hugs to you my friend.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory