Lines used by WAS, What were yours?

[Kokopelli]

However as we detached we probably began to realize that some of these comments were the said on impulse and influenced by the fog of a MLC, anger, mood, or whatever. I still respect my W despite the fact that some of her comments, were illogical, untruthful, or hurtful. I also respect her for the things she's said that were true.

I work to build my strength and individuality. If she says unkind, untrue things then I will ignore them (water off a duck's back), forget them, and forgive them.

This has proven very difficult for me lately, but I believe 100% in that concept. Some of the actions my WAW has done recently, and some of the statements made were very hurtful and linger in my mind, haunting my thoughts on regular occasion. I noticed that my responses to her lately have been colder and more distant, even though that's not how I want to be. I just do not want to be perceived as weak or a doormat.

Water off a ducks back...I have to keep that in the front of my mind in some of the convo's I have with W. She goes straight for the heart with some of her stabbing comments and actions, but then will turn around and run in to hug me or start being kinder. I always remain friendly, just a little shorter and distant than I used to be with her. I know my shortness comes from me analyzing her statements after our encounter and internalizing feelings from my thoughts about it. I probably should stop that and go with the attitude of unconditional love and kindness. Very hard for me lately.