Yes, Coach we shouldn't react with anger or cynicism. I do feel that sometimes it's healthy to get some of this stuff out. Many of us were probably at one time hanging on every word our spouse said and accepting it as the Gospel. However as we detached we probably began to realize that some of these comments were the said on impulse and influenced by the fog of a MLC, anger, mood, or whatever. I still respect my W despite the fact that some of her comments, were illogical, untruthful, or hurtful. I also respect her for the things she's said that were true.
I work to build my strength and individuality. If she says unkind, untrue things then I will ignore them (water off a duck's back), forget them, and forgive them.
"My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon which I stand." Thich Nhat Hanh
