Most Difficult Time of My Life

[Kokopelli]

Antlers,
Thanks for the words. I've done plenty that hasn't worked also. It's strange to me that my W has been the primary contactor for the last couple weeks and now no contact. Makes me wonder if things are backfiring...I think she has to know, or at least think, that I will not always be here for her. You are so right about discipline...it's one of the hardest things in this situation.

I know we can't second guess ourselves either. We either are detaching or pursuing. I have to stick with the detachment and allow it time to work. I have learned so much about my W over the last month, the most important in how she is handling this sitch.

She absolutely will not take time to reflect on things. She constantly has to stay busy, surround herself with her enabling circle, and continue to distract her thoughts. Whenever she is alone, she usually initiates contact with me. This is what makes reconciling a hard thought to have. I know that until she learns to process her feelings, there is probably no chance, and she will not allow that to happen by remaining distracted and surrouned by supporters for her cause. She is a very headstrong woman, and has NEVER admitted to being wrong about anything. Seriously, she has never apologized to me for anything in our almost 9 years together! That is headstrong. But twisted in a different direction one of the reasons I love her so :o)

Tough cookie to crack in this kind of sitch, no support from anyone on her side.