WAW came back from the gym and put some coffee on. Called upstairs to ask if I'd like any.
"Sure." Went downstairs, joined her at kitchen table, asked how her workout was, idle chatter. So are you still interested in starting yoga lessons?
"Yes indeed; that tennis like to killed me yesterday."
Well you should go to Yoga Place. It's better for you than Other Yoga Place, because it's more of a scene -- lots more younger women there.
(Ooookay. So that's how it's going to be, eh?)
Then WAW snapped at me about money. So I got up and went back upstairs to the office without another word. Clearly, BFF/Enabling Girlfriend has suggested to her that the key to her freedom is to encourage me to get another woman. What was it that your parents used to say in high school when you were devastated? "It takes one to get over one?" I suspect that was BFF's advice to WAW.
Same here. Wifey poo mentions it about every other conversation. Told her I was sick of hearing it.
M-41 ex-W-40 Together--17 years SS-20 D-14 Bomb--2 Feb 09 WAW--6 Feb 09 Officially divorced on 2 Jun 2010!!! ex-W has a boyfriend 8 Jun 2010!!! Off we go into the wild blue yonder!!!!
But how "insulting" that I would imply (when I confronted her last week about EA) that she's obsessed with OM and behaving like a teenager! Why does there always have to be another man suspected? Can't she just want freedom for herself? It is SO insulting to suggest that a grown woman would behave that way! Clearly we can never be friends.
I just had the same discussion last night and then again this morning. In the view of my W, OM has NOTHING to do with what is going on in our R. Our R is bad, unrepairable, and OM has nothing to do with that. If I think otherwise, then I am obviously the one who is deluded and obsessed with the OM...
AAAARRGGHHHH!
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
Definitely script. I heard the same thing from xBF.
He also said it was ok if I started dating other people when he declared us separated, but he wouldn't be doing that for a long time. Uh, yeah. You mean other than your current affair?
Interestingly enough, now that he wants to reconcile he has a serious problem with me suggesting that it's my turn to explore if maybe another man is a better option for me.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
He also said it was ok if I started dating other people when he declared us separated, but he wouldn't be doing that for a long time. Uh, yeah. You mean other than your current affair?
LOL! I got the same line. Script. It's all about rationalizing away the guilt -- the knowledge of what they're doing.
But how "insulting" that I would imply (when I confronted her last week about EA) that she's obsessed with OM and behaving like a teenager! Why does there always have to be another man suspected? Can't she just want freedom for herself? It is SO insulting to suggest that a grown woman would behave that way! Clearly we can never be friends.
I just had the same discussion last night and then again this morning. In the view of my W, OM has NOTHING to do with what is going on in our R. Our R is bad, unrepairable, and OM has nothing to do with that. If I think otherwise, then I am obviously the one who is deluded and obsessed with the OM...
AAAARRGGHHHH!
"Wife, I agree that OM is not the only issue in our marriage. However, at the moment, he IS the most immediate obstacle, and that needs to end so we can address our issues."
