The last thing is you could call her and ask her to keep your daughter overnight because you have some plans you would like to make. And then go out with the boys or something and have fun!
Honestly, I have wondered about your setup as far as visitation. I left the kids with H until I got the apartment set up, but after that, they baby came with me. He couldn't handle her if he tried. But we had already agreed to every other weekend and every other Wednesday night. We haven't stuck to the Wednesday night thing so much. Other than that, if he wants the baby for something, he asks and as long as I don't have something planned specifically for her, I let him have her. Same goes for the dude. Likewise, if it's my weekend, but I have class, I beg him to take the kids...okay, well, not beg, but I ask and he always agrees.
Maybe it is time to get that worked out. At least then, maybe she will feel better since she will know exactly when daughter is going over. Likewise, you can plan your own time for when she is not there, too. It's not a last minute can she/can't she thing.
Just something to think about. Nobody feels left out or has to be overburdened that way either. I know she is 13 and she does get to choose who she lives with, but there is only one person who gave birth to her, and she can't write her off forever, even though she may feel like it. We are back to the "do the right thing" thing.
Melissa
"Standing knee deep in a river and dying of thirst."
