We haven't contacted each other in any form or fashion. I am really losing hope in this situation. How does a person continue DB'ng in this kind of situation?
I keep telling myself that miracles happen everyday, and hoping for "divine intervention" to change her mind or at least soften her stance a bit to give us a chance. I will not initiate contact with her no matter what, but how do you know if you're making progress or backsliding?
I get stuck in this constant loop of worrying about things, hoping for signs of change, wishing she'd reach out to me and just shoot a text saying hi or something. This process has been going on for about 2 months, and this is the first time we have had NO contact whatsoever.
I keep telling myself time is my ally, and hoping she will begin to crack. It doesn't seem like it though.
My wife wants no contact whatsoever also. She doesn't even want us to see each other while handing off our kids to each other. I think the best things we can do are to honor and cherish them by giving the the space and time that they need. Hopefully, they will then be able to process the TONS of emotions that they need to deal with...and start to heal. They can't do this with us contacting them frequently. We have to leave them alone, and let them initiate any contact. Hopefully, time will be an ally to us. It's less about effort on our part, and more about discipline on our part. That's the way I'm trying to look at it. I know you're hurting...me too! It's about not doing what doesn't work...and I've done plenty that doesn't work!
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
