I was talking to woman I work with yesterday. Her and I are fairly close. I don't remember what we were talking about but it ended up bringing up parts of my situation. The more I talked about my wife and our R the more my friend said OMG that sounds like what I went through. She gave me some insight as to what she felt and went through and what she is feeling now about her xh.
She married and had kids young. Her husband was clingy and smothering. After 15 years of marriage she said "I've had enough, I've always belonged to somebody" and started going out and partying because she "missed" that part of her life. She didn't give me specifics as far as her divorce but it sounds like she divorced her h fairly abruptly. She told me she was glad that my W only wants to separate at this point and hasn't mentioned divorce.
She said going out and partying all the time was fun at first and then the novelty wears off after awhile. After coming home to an empty home time after time she began to miss what she had. They did not reconcile. She said that her and her x still care and love each other but so much venom and bad things were said during their split that they couldn't get past that.
Today they are both remarried. She said she was angry for awhile because her husband had changed into what she had wanted and he married her x best friend. She wishes that she hadn't rushed into divorce. She said she truly loves the h she has now but she will never feel fully comfortable like she did with her xh.
