I think that may be part of it. She is in her own little world and it's ALL about her. It's sad when the kids see it too.
It's almost like they lose the capability to focus on anyone but themselves. My wife use to pick the kids up on her way home from work, then pick up a sitter, so she could workout for an hour. By the time she was finished feeding the kids then working out it would be time to put the them to bed. This was during the weekday. It's sad, they don't even see it man. All a part of the madness, you sound like your really getting a good handle on this. That's great. Patience with no expectations.
