Originally Posted By: kjensen
Peace-
I think I'm still pretty weak and somewhat obesessed periodically with the OW/A.I don't know how everyone has been so strong for months and years when I'm ready to tear my hair out after 3 months.
Is it worse in the beginning when you are absorbing all of this rewriting of history and "i've never loved you" stuff and reeling from the "bombs"?


KJ,
You're judging yourself too harshly. Let yourself be human. You mentioned the natural emotional response to this type of crisis in the books you read. You're not going to go from crisis to acceptance, just like that.

Let yourself be imperfect, human, and emotional. You have control over the self-critical, judging piece. You're adding to your own suffering.

Be patient with yourself. It takes time and practice to be skilled at dealing with this type of problem.

You're taking steps in the right direction. You're practicing new skllls, behaviors and concepts at this time. You will become more skilled at this.

CL

Last edited by Concerned_Listener; 04/04/09 12:57 PM.
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M 20 yrs.
03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL
10-14' Piecing

"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."

----Tao Te Ching