Overall you did great. You set a boundary at the bed and told her how she was taking everything else she wanted.
You also did great in validating her feelings. You were really in touch with how she was feeling and was able to stop her when she got too intense. The cooling off period worked like a charm.
She can cry all she wants, but you did well in saying what you will and will not tolerate.
"She said she wanted to but was afraid I would say she left and abandoned the kids."
She's pretty messed up in the head to say something like that. Have you ever told her that before? I don't think I've ever seen you mention anything like that here.
Great job overall.
What I'm struggling with is that when I set boundaries, it adds to her frustration. I guess it can help maintain my self respect but I don't see how it helps to improve my situation. She asked for money to help her buy a bed then
Another thing she moved out already was the liquor and stuff we use to make her martini's. Seems like she is determined not to relax/enjoy any time here before she moves.
I think her lawyer told her that about moving out without the kids. I never discouraged her fear, but never encouraged it either. I know its passive aggressive
I don't know if I did a good job. I see the woman I love hurting like I have never seen before. I want to help but I don't know how. I could give her everything that she wants but am I falling back into the "nice guy" mode?
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
