Swimming upstream...PH #7

[pearlharbr]

Gucci, you're a lifesaver. Or at least a relationship saver.

Thank you for this post. It makes SO MUCH sense and of course is a better approach. I have been so caught up with making sure I get what I need and want and the only way I saw that happening was to be crystal clear with my expectations.

Additionally, and more importantly, I have been putting me first and not thinking about anyone else's needs. It's going to be a major adjustment to go back to assessing how my words and actions affect xBF. It's funny, we spent eight years together and he was always the most important person in my life. Now after two months I have to relearn how to make him part of my life. Well, maybe.

Back to the issue at hand. Gucci, you said wait until the timing is right. I'm not sure I know what timing I'm looking for. After spending some time together or before? We're supposed to get together on Sunday to discuss the financial settlement. I wanted to get everything out on the table at the same time so we both know what's expected before moving forward.