Hi sweetie-pie. Read your stitch about S3's prayer. Wow! I think you have a gift for saying just the right thing to your children. I am always amazed at your compassion b/c knowing me....I would have blasted their dad to bits--out of my own anger issues, but not you....you are only concerned for their little hearts and how all this is affecting them.....and the fact that you do want them to love their dad (the jerk) and you keep him held up to them and convincing them of his love for them. So, I vote for AmyM for the Mother of the Year Award!!
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And, now, I'm sad and mad again! How can this be the best thing for my children, and, how in the world can H be so blind that he honestly believes it is??????
Don't beat yourself up over these feelings. After all, you are just human.......and I was beginning to wonder!! (Just kidding) Seriously, we have talked about this before and you know you are going to have these hard, down times and wonder and ask "why did this happen?" And, you will probably try to blame yourself (in which I will personally come spank you) and wonder if you could have done something different then maybe he would not have left. But, honey, don't do it. We all have told you that you did all any woman could do. You even endured him sleeping with the OW while trying to get him back--and that wasn't enough for him.....so what more could you do??? Anyway, no use in hashing all that again. It just pains me to see you hurt and I know every time these babies say something like S3 did.....it is going to rip your heart out. But, you are doing the best of any other mother I know of in your stitch. Now, that is saying a lot, don't you think? And don't tell anybody else on here that I told you that! It is our secret.
You know, Amy, I had always heard by older folks that we aren't suppose to question God. One Sunday, I just politely asked, why. I thought the Sunday School teacher was going to fall over. She could not think of anything to say other than that was what she had always heard. Well, that was not good enough for me! I said again, "Why shouldn't we question God?" If we had no questions, then why would we pray or seek His directions and instructions from His Word?" I believe I know what they meant by that statement......I was just making my "own" statement in that class that day... They mean, maybe, that we think by questioning God, that we are saying we think He messed up or made a "mistake" in our life somewhere or maybe somebody else's life. Well, my answer, again, is that that should cause us to look in His word for the answers. It is hard to explain to people who are unbelievers, b/c I have tried to do that. They blame God for all the bad stuff in planet earth, but the Bible teaches us that it is "sin" that has caused this.....not God. They see God as being one that is mean and say if He was a God of love, how could He allow these things to happen. Oh, I could get up on my box now with this subject....lol. But, I'll spare you b/c we've talk about it before. Just want to remind you b/c I know that you know your H was created to have free will and it was not God's doings that caused your H to do what he did and even though you did the best you could......it still happened. Just like when a precious child is hit with a disease.......oh Lord. When my little girl asked me why God allowed her to have diabetes when He "could" have prevented it.......I did not know what to say to make her feel better. Where were you, Amy, when I needed you there to tell me what to say? Those are tough questions to answer, but as I tried to tell her, it wasn't b/c He was being mean to her, but things happen to good people and we have to trust God to do what is best for us in spite of what has happened to us. And that, my dear darling, is what you will do b/c you are a smart cookie! He will do what is the best thing in spite of what has happened to you. Who else can take what was meant for evil and turn it into good? Yes, the boys will not be as happy with the stitch as they would if daddy was living at home, but you don't have any power over that except to do what you are already doing and that is to give them as much security and reassurance of their parents' love for them, as you possibly can. That is one of those things in the prayer of serenity to accept the things we cannot change. Trust God to do the rest. Somehow, someway, it will all turn out good for you. No, you can't see it today and maybe not for a while to come, yet. But, someday, you will look back and see......if you will stay obedient to Him. It's a promise!
Love you sweetie, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
They mean, maybe, that we think by questioning God, that we are saying we think He messed up or made a "mistake" in our life somewhere or maybe somebody else's life. Well, my answer, again, is that that should cause us to look in His word for the answers. It is hard to explain to people who are unbelievers, b/c I have tried to do that. They blame God for all the bad stuff in planet earth, but the Bible teaches us that it is "sin" that has caused this.....not God. They see God as being one that is mean and say if He was a God of love, how could He allow these things to happen. Oh, I could get up on my box now with this subject....lol. But, I'll spare you b/c we've talk about it before. Just want to remind you b/c I know that you know your H was created to have free will and it was not God's doings that caused your H to do what he did and even though you did the best you could......it still happened. Just like when a precious child is hit with a disease.......oh Lord. When my little girl asked me why God allowed her to have diabetes when He "could" have prevented it.......I did not know what to say to make her feel better. Where were you, Amy, when I needed you there to tell me what to say? Those are tough questions to answer, but as I tried to tell her, it wasn't b/c He was being mean to her, but things happen to good people and we have to trust God to do what is best for us in spite of what has happened to us. And that, my dear darling, is what you will do b/c you are a smart cookie! He will do what is the best thing in spite of what has happened to you. Who else can take what was meant for evil and turn it into good? Yes, the boys will not be as happy with the stitch as they would if daddy was living at home, but you don't have any power over that except to do what you are already doing and that is to give them as much security and reassurance of their parents' love for them, as you possibly can. That is one of those things in the prayer of serenity to accept the things we cannot change. Trust God to do the rest. Somehow, someway, it will all turn out good for you. No, you can't see it today and maybe not for a while to come, yet. But, someday, you will look back and see......if you will stay obedient to Him. It's a promise!