I lost my password, and had some weird stuff happen, but I'm now 4 days in on a new DA dark regimen!
I've learned a couple of things - going dark can be amazingly successful! I did a month-long stint over February, and W went from barely speaking to me, to calling me, texting me, sending pictures, etc. She didn't cut off her affair, although things appear to be slowing down.
So, lessons I will pass along: 1. Going dark is the hardest thing ever to do 1b. It can do amazing things for your mental health, clear your head, etc 2. It can have an amazing impact on your spouse - even when they are in an affair 3. You can not give in even when your spouse shows signs of changing - you need to SPECIFICALLY hear the words, "I want to be in this marriage." I made this mistake! 4. It's much easier the second time around, because having peace of mind is almost as attractive as having your spouse back.
