Your thread caught my eye and I decided to check it out. Read through it and had to comment on something Pearl said about her xBF THINKING she was dating someone else.
In my sitch, my W went to see a mutual friend about 2 months ago that told her that I was meeting lots of people, men and women, making new friends, etc... etc... The next thing that happened was a LONG email from W saying that it was clear to her now that I was happier without her and she's very UNhappy and she did not want to hold me up any longer and I should just move on. SO those thoughts do trigger some things in a WAS. Right now, I am not sure if I reacted correctly to this.
What I did is explain to her that yes, I am happier now, but that's because the separation forced me to make myself happy without relying on her for that, not because she's not there. I also explained that I do make lots of new friends now, but I am not interested in dating anyone right now. I guess what I am wondering is that maybe playing complete hardball and say OK, if you think that's best, then go ahead! But I feel like that would be playing roulette with my kids' lives!!
Anyways, all of this to say that a little jealousy could put some movement in the sitch.
