I had quite a nice day with "the hiker". We went to a botanical garden which has a glass house with exotic flowers. Unfortunately, it was freezing and the sun was not shining; instead it was getting more and more foggy!
I should do some chores in the house and also work a bit in the garden. Although it has not been worm the weeds are shooting up. I hope the weather will be better tomorrow and I can do some gardening. I have neglected the housework a bit but fortunately, I won't have any guests in the near future.
Although it was very nice and warm today I didn't work in the garden but went for a lovely walk on the water front instead. Then it was time to get ready for the theatre.
Tomorrow I am meeting my GF and we might even go to either a jazz or blues concert in the evening. I guess I will have no time for gardening either but it won't run away.
I "got to know" another guy who seems to have more in common with me than the ones I met so far. I will probably meet him on Monday. - "The sailor" did not contact me anymore and I stopped writing to him some time ago.
I have not heard from XH anymore (now I mentioned it I will probably hear from him tomorrow).
I don't usually read the old timers.. : ) I am not saying you are old btw.
It seems like you life is moving along just fine.
What do you get out of talking to your XH? Not him...screw him...but you? Anything? You know you might not ever get the real answers, and I hope that you know now that they are unimportant.
If you get something from it, then evalute if it is worth the cost to you.
If you don't get anything from it.
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he is considering if it might be better to break off all contact now we are divorced. The woman he married would not have done such a thing.
Agree with him. You don't even have to be snide about it.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
Thanks for posting to me and your encouragement. I know you didn't mean I am old - LOL. I haven't spoken to my XH for over a year apart from his brief phone call a few weeks ago. We are only in e-mail contact.
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Agree with him. You don't even have to be snide about it.
I guess you mean that I agree with the "no contact" bit but not with "the woman he married..." bit. I am thinking about agreeing. At the moment I am dim but down the line I will still have to have some contact because of some unfinished business matters.
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I meant that I don't really know this guy since I haven't met him yet. I only e-mailed him so far.
Actually...I did mean the woman he married part. Let him be a martyr. The woman he married didn't put up with the crap you have put up with. You're not the same woman. You're a different one, a stronger and more capable one, one that doesn't put up with his poor baby BS.
Ahhh...well have fun and be safe. : )
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
I met my GF this afternoon and we went for our "usual" walk on the water front and then to the restaurant for a drink outdoors. It was a lovely and warm day.
In the evening she didn't want to join me to go to a jazz concert. So I went on my own. I didn't like the band. On the way to the place I passed a small cafe where they also had jazz. So I returned and listened to the music. A few minutes later two guys sat next to me and one of them started to chat to me. He lives at the other end of the country and is in the area for an exhibition. He asked me where one can go out in the town we were in. I told him that there will be another blues concert in a certain place tomorrow. I knew about it because I would go. So he said that we might meet again tomorrow. In the end he gave me his business card.
It made me feel good that he would have liked to get to know me although it is not likely that I will ever meet him again. I noticed that I am less shy these days and can talk in a more relaxed way to men these days. Just when men start flirting with me I am still a bit shy.
Sounds like you are getting out & enjoying life now. I do know how hard it is when the XH blames you for everything & says you are not the person he married. Mine did that too but that was before D. I'm afraid my X will also blame me for getting everything that I got. I did get a lot but he is the one that had an A. Same as your X. These MLCer's are so hard to understand.
You are doing great! Hang in there & I'm thinking about you!!!
