You are so right about building a friendship! And you know what? Being friends with a person you are M to is hard! (LOL) It is hard b/c of the emotional ties and the physical ties and everything else involved that isn't with other people who are considered to be "friends".
I think it was a very positive sign that she thought enough of you to being the baby over "herself" to see you on your BD. She didn't have to, you know. And, most women would have maybe signed their name to a card that was suppose to really be from the baby, not so it would cause any expectations from the H. But, she went as far as to get you a card from her personally and I think that is wonderful. The reason she had to keep it casual with signing "Best Wishes" and not any kisses, etc., was b/c it would have raised your hopes and you would have read too much into it. So, she is trying to be "friends" and not get you impatient again and start applying pressure about getting together as a couple. So, be happy with the fact that she did do that much. I know you are, but I also know in your heart....you were just a little disappointed that she signed it the way she did. Don't think on those things. Those are the small things that can break a person if they think on it too much. As the saying goes, "Don't sweat the small stuff".
You are doing so wonderful and I am so very proud of you. Keep up this rate and I believe in time, you will see some positive action toward a future with your W.
Take care, Sandi
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
