Treese, Never, ever wish that you could do like he does...he has no soul, heart or feelings right now for anyone but himself. You do not ever want to go down the path he has chosen.
Everything your h has said and done and will continue to do has been written in the scripts before your h flipped his wig. It's a standard pattern set in stone for many of the things that they say and do. Learn from what you've read here that your h is doing a large majority of the mlc traits. Understand that there's nothing you can say or do that will change the sand in the hour glass, for it will have to run it's course until the glass is empty and he has hit bottom. Let him go...do not stand in his way for he must learn what is the most important thing in life--finding happiness from within and he must come to realize that his family is the most precious things in life.
You...take from this board the knowledge that you learn and apply it in your day-to-day life...learn to live your life to the fullest. Do not second guess yourself and whatever you do, you do not wish to have the "freedom" that you think he has now. It is an illusion, one that is built on mask wearing, the house that he lives in his built on sand and it will crumble. Treese, let him go. It is time for you to turn your complete focus back on to your children and yourself. There's nothing you can do for him...his hourglass will take care of everything that involves him.
Focus on you and your children...nothing else matters at this time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
