The captain did keep me anonymous, luckily H was dumb enough to be using the ships cell phone to make the calls, texts, etc. So he could blame another shipmate and the proof was easy enough to find. Sometimes I think about telling him that it was me, but I think that it would be pointless now. The command changed shortly after all of this happened, so once the new capt came on, he went right back to his shenanigans.
Unfortunately I havent had a chance to try to rebuild with my H, so I cant imagine what a tough time this must be for you. I still over analyze every thing he says, Im sure you do that too, and the only thing I can say about that is, it wont help. If hes gonna be a grump, let him, it doesnt matter why, dont let him make you miserable too.
Do you have any proof of this? Maybe you could drop an anonymous post card off to her H. Or maybe this whole thing has caused enough hardship already. If this is her pattern of behavior you can probably bet that its not the first, or last time that shes done this, and eventually everything, good or bad, catches up to you.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
