Fb2 - You've raised that point about the kids perception of adultery before. It bothers me that we are to not bad mouth the actions of the cheating spouse in front of the kids, but yet, does that not send the wrong message that adultery is tolerated.
I guess for our kids sake, it maybe is not so bad if the spouse that cheated ultimately crashes and burns so that they can be an example to the kids of what not to do.
Right now, my kids are just too young to understand the concept of adultery. It pissed me off to no end when I found out for sure from my own daughter that my W was in a PA. My daughter thought it was cute that mommy had a boyfriend and was sharing germs with him. In my rage at the time, I told my daughter that it was wrong for mommy to have a boyfriend when married, because when you marry, you pledge loyalty to the other person. I was chastized for saying this to her.
I think it is good that Tostada has been able to draw a line from the rejection to his XW's attraction to OM. At first we feel like fools, but as time goes on, we realize that most of the downfall in the marriage was not our fault. I dont buy into the people that say that when an affair is discovered that we need to look within ourselves as to our role in causing it. The person that got into the affair has most of the blame (along with the affair partner).
Tostada, your X and the OM are morally deficient people with little conscience.
