I'd like to give more of a frame to my initial question. I know it was a brief post.
Aside from spending years of wanting not to want, I have tried to be authentic and honest in my marriage. I haven't tried to change myself too much to become "something else" in hopes of enticing my H. Exercise, dressing well, make-up, and other self care was done for me and for him. It didn't hurt when self care made others turn their heads, too.
I have, however, been working on bringing my sexual side forward a bit more. This is a good step in improving me for myself, and I am working on this in an effort to be more authentic (that is, to show my desire rather than bury it or ignore it).
I agree that it is H's problem that he hates the shows. I've watched them despite his condemnation of them for a couple of years now. It has gotten to the point of him sitting with me, watching them, but he huffs and puffs throughout the entire show. He is seriously offended by the people on the reality shows and by the TV networks that produce them.
Because he is so offended by the shows, and has stated his disbelief that I would spend my time watching such garbage, I was thinking that he can't possibly have desire when they are on.
I was putting the shows in the same light as frumpy sweatpants. It would take little effort to stop watching the shows, just as it takes little effort to wear something other than frumpy, lumpy, dumpy mommy clothes. Not much sacrifice there.
I wonder what the ultimate reference, Cosmopolitan Magazine, would say. ; )
*Sigh*
Just trying to leave no stone unturned in my quest to be a better me and a better wife.
