Stress, WAW and life in general II

[AJM]

Hi MB. Ups and downs.

Wife called today. Didn't see her last night, but she called last night too. She wanted to know what the different car in the driveway was for. I had to get my car fixed, so I was borrowing a car. She seemed interested so I told her the rest of the details. Weird.
This morning she slept in (unheard of) instead of going to the gym. She called me on my way to work, but I couldn't answer it. I got the vm and emailed her back. She was calling to let me know that she had not heard back from the car dealership. She is trying to get her car serviced. I told her in the email that she can set it up for Tuesday if not and I'll take care of it. She called again a little later and asked if I got the vm. ?? In the email I also asked if she wanted to grab a fast sushi lunch. I asked on the phone and she wasn't sure. I told her just let me know if she'd like to go.

Later I got an email saying she wanted to meet me there. So we had a nice lunch. Fast. No stress. Nice conversation.

I called the pastor later and asked him about her behavior. Is it normal for this situation? He said it depends, but if she's trying to repair the relationship, then yes it is exactly what he'd expect. He warned me that I may be the one trying to run away. I don't think so, but I am cautious. He suggested I needed to relax as much as I can and be a wall. Act as if is essentially what he was telling me.

I also told him about her conversation with me about the future. She wants me to sign us up at church for the easter breakfast. She wants us to go to the early service so we can head out to her aunt's house for birthday and easter celebrations (my birthday and her's are the 9th). She is also talking about the future when her parents want to come up for daughter's birthday for dinner. I was good with those.

Ok. I can try to be easy and available. But my emotions are so frazzled, I am not sure I won't babble like a goldfish along the way. I keep thinking that she wants to have sex, pack her bags and leave hoping to be friends still. I have to get that out of my mind though. I'm overthinking it. He was quick to point that out to me. That I'm overanalyzing things.

I'm an analyst by trade and an optimist by choice. He laughed at that. He told me to relax. enjoy the good times as they come and deal with anything else when if it happens.

So all in all, it could be good. I think because she realizes that she is broken we're making progress. I think she may still leave though she seems to be trying really hard to talk to me and hang out with me even though she's tired and hasn't gotten anything done with regards to her studying. She's taken a break. Which is also good.

Just have to wait to see what she wants to talk about that she spoke to the mc about. She asked me out on Saturday (changed to Sunday for scheduling reasons) for our birthday dinner. To her favorite restaraunt. Maybe then. I'm going to take it as it comes.

Thanks for asking. I'm working on my PMA.

AJ