Lines used by WAS, What were yours?

[Coach]

Guys, I get why you want to vent and point fingers and say see it's not all my fault. But is pointing out and re-hashing quotes that are un-flattering towards your W going to help you. Hurting people say hurtful things. The sarcasm and cynicism are really forms of anger. I am not going to tell you not to be angry but to make yourself happy you can't stay angry. It's hard to hold a loving, compassionate thought in your head if you are angry.

Here's a line that changed my world, "the pain of staying is greater than the pain of leaving." That was the ultimate 2x4. I had a responsibility to my W, my family and most importantly myself to get to the bottom of that. My W had fault in our R but I didn't control her. I had to take control of my actions, thoughts, feelings, beliefs and happiness. "Love your neighbor as yourself."

This journey isn't all about your spouse. It's about how you handle the obstacles and loved ones in your life. Strength and Honor.
Cheers
Coach