You're welcome!

Example:

Controlling:

"You need to end your affair, right now!"

Boundary:

"I cannot live in an open marriage."

Controlling:

You need to change your cellphone #, and give me a copy of the detailed bill every month!"

Boundary:

"I'm glad you want to reconcile, but in order for me to feel safe in the relationship, I need completely no-contact and transparency from you for awhile -- including changing your cellphone # and having your new bill sent to me for a period of time."