Puppy,

Thanks for the distinction:

"boundaries" (ME oriented) vs. "controlling" behavior (YOU oriented). "This is what I need in order to feel safe in the relationship," vs. "THESE ARE THE THINGS I NEED YOU TO DO FOR ME."

That helps clarify the distinction in my mind better.

H40 (me)
W34 (WAW)
S6
T11
M10

Feb09: Need a break bomb
Mar09: I moved to apartment to GAL, PMA, NMMNG
Apr09: WAW 'dating' OM at work, positive around me lately.

My Sitch