Update from about 2 years ago. After a year reconcillation, I decided that I didn't have it in me to forgive. We separated and me and my ex husband are now divorced. Now here's the kick in the butt, he went right back to the other woman! We tried to remain cordial and friendly but now I don't want to be friends. To me this was like putting salt in a wound. This hurt all over again. After all he said about her, how could he go back to her Am I wrong for feeling this?
i do not think u are wrong, u cannot help how u feel. i am just curious, what happened during your period of reconciliation? did it not go well or was it just not what u thought it would be? i am at the point of reconciling and its scary.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
Our reconcillation was wonderful. He was a perfect husband, he really tried, but in the end, it wasn't enough for me. I couldn't do it. I didn't look at him the same, I had to fight with myself every single day not to think about it. It consummed me and I just had to go for my own peace of mind. Now, I think I made the right decision, because deep down, now that I know he's back with her, I'm not sure his affair was ever really over. Even though he swears to it. Get this, he told me I gave him permission to go back to her that I even suggested it. Are you kidding me? He's putting it on my shoulders as to why he's back with her? What a sad man he turned out to be. He really disappointed me.
For you, if you can let go and forgive, then for heaven sakes - STAY. It is awful being alone. I absolutely hate it! And, its been 15 months now and time doesn't seem to help me. I guess I'm still bitter and hurt. Don't turn out like me. It was really easy for me to leave, we were only married a year when he started his affair, no kids, nothing together to keep us together.
