Well, you are there with her and know the real her. YOu know if she has always been like this or not. When she worked before was she different during the week? When I was working outside of the home I was definitely diffferent during the week. Teaching was stressful, I had given everything to my students, and had even more to do when I got home, so the weekend was the only time I could really relax (or vacations). It's different now, though, because I work from home and I don't have the stress of teaching a large class.
Yeah, I've told you before I didn't understand the whole glass thing. I needed to get rid of that stuff. It did take me a while. I had expensive clothes, expensive watches, trinkets...it was part of the withdrawal. Slowly but surely I got rid of them. And, remember, sure she may be trying to make you guys work, but does she think that you may not be able to get over stuff so does she feel like you have that back door open still? Maybe for her, this is her back door to protect herself as well.
"You're correct, when I do call her on it, she changes her tune. I will keep doing it. Maybe it's like you said either here or on FB, it's like she needs to be trained on what's acceptable to me because in the past I let her get away with it?" YEP, I still believe this.
I still say "no" to the thank you. Not that you never bring it up, but you could bring it up at a time when it makes sense. Unless, of course, you want to have a real relationship talk about it and REALLY talk about it. But, I don't think you want to do that. I never think REALLY communicating with her about those things is a bad idea. You guys couldn't communicate enough at this point. IMO.
