Well, AF, for me it's different. My respect for my W is independent of her decision to / to not work on the M. In my summary I should have added:
After SP starts DB'ing he takes full responsibility for sitch, validates W's feelings and decisions, says he understands and accepts.
I don't know why W won't / can't work on the M. Maybe she's scared. She's pretty mule-headed, so maybe she's afraid of losing face. Maybe -- and let's face it, this is ALWAYS a possibility (perhaps even a probability) -- she REALLY DOESN'T WANT TO BE MARRIED TO ME.
So that bit is beyond my control, and I'm not going to let influence my evaluations of her. She is my children's mother and, at a minimum, deserves my respect for that.
