WAW/Affair Confirmed - Advice? #2

[DCBHM]

I went to my lawyer's office yesterday. Read through the motion, and my affidavit. Took the pen, and although my hand shook for a second I signed it and authorized them to file.

I reflect back, and as I look at the love I have for W, I also recognize that I'm going to have to take actions she is not going to like, and which will likely mean an end to any sort of relationship with her family, in order to do what I believe is right.

In the end, she may possibly get help, and she may be able to have a happy and fulfilling life. But I won't receive any gratitude from her family. I'll always be the jerk who brought her problems out into the open.

I am under no illusion that there will be hope for my M going this path. But I also prioritize my D's well-being above my own desires.

I will continue to chronicle the story... as maybe some of the events I am going through will help someone else make decisions that they know are hard.

It has been four days since I got off the fence, and made the decision to focus solely on moving on. I have a sense of grief, but also a sense of purpose that I know I'm moving towards a better future - whatever that might be.

In the end, whether working on your M or moving through a D - you have to learn to be happy with yourself before you can have a healthy relationship with someone else. I've learned a lot here, and through the events in my life. I hope to be able to give advice that is helpful to some of you going through similar situations.

One thing I will say now... although your heart may be strong, and you are willing to ride the emotional roller coaster for a while - you have to keep focused on the needs of your children if you have any. They aren't equipped a lot of the times to deal with the emotional issues.