H46, W44, S/D (both <10). Bomb 2/13/09. In-house separation 2/13/09. Panic 2/13/09. Found _DB_ on/about 2/24/09. Started DB'ing o/a 2/26/09. WAW moving out mid-June 09. Talking up her new house search; talking up separating finances; talking up division of child-care duties. Possible/probable OM (Electronic Version) in Upstate City, about 6 hours' driving from here. Switch clicked over a few days ago, and SP is now in full-bore "as if" mode. SP/WAW have had 2 group outings w/ kids, each of which precipitated a WAW-instigated R talk. Outing planned for next week, just the 2 of us. SP consults w/ DB Coaches x 5 times, 2 remaining under current contract. SP GAL'ing like a banshee: dance lessons, tennis lessons, yoga lessons, many collegial lunches, 2 trips planned, reclaiming former hobby, new clothes & hair. Trying to cheerfully project Total Acceptance / loving detachment.
So there I am. WAW is very confused by SP's attitude -- angry WAW BFF (and Enabling Girlfried) calls house to speak w/ WAW; before WAW comes to phone angry BFF says, "why are you f*cking w/ her so much?"
SP's response: "BFF, I have three responses to that -- first, if I thought I knew what you were talking about, I'd have a better response; second, if I thought you knew what you were talking about, I'd have a better response; and third, if I thought for a minute anything that goes on between my wife and me was your business I'd let you know."
