The adventure continues--part 2

[AFWAW]

Had a boring day. Caught myself thinking about the sitch too much again. Wow, just got a call from the wife. My daughter answered and she asked my daughter if I could talk. Sure I said. She wanted to know she wasn't trying to stiff me on money for child support this time and asked if I was doing ok. I said yeah, I'm fine. She said, well, how much do you have? I fibbed a little and will go set up another account tomorrow. She said all I have to do is go to the bank and check since my name is still on the account. She said if I come back and you're lying to me I'm going to be pissed. She said, how do you have so much? I said, I don't know, I haven't bought that much, I guess. She said, are you guys doing without? Nope, I said. She said, wow, you're doing better than I am and proceeded to give me a rundown of all her bills and told me that she only had $24 left before this payday. HOLY COW!!!! I guess them bills are catching up to her quick. She said ok, I'll get with you tomorrow and give you child support. I said ok, just give me a call and let me know.

OK, the big thing from this conversation that I find laughable is that she threatened me with her saying: If I come back and find out you're lying to me I'm going to be pissed.

That's assuming I'll take her back at this point. That is exactly the kind of attitude I don't need and don't want anymore! She is assuming a lot at this point. Little does she know that I have progressed from my pursuing, desperate, needy stage to the ANGER STAGE! So, it looks like my main goal is to switch account tommorrow!

[Mellenmack]

Definitely switch accounts ASAP as she can clean you out because she is on the account. My H and I have both done this already.

I also find it interesting that she is threatening you, but it really doesn't surprise me. Next time, I would just tell her it's none of her business. Because after the accounts are switched, it really is none of her business. And feel free to say, "I guess I have so much because no one else is here to spend it like it's going out of style." Okay, don't say it, but you can think it REALLY LOUDLY to yourself. I wouldn't even have told her except that she can check...just beware, she is going to try to stick some of her bills back on you, I think. Just beware. I didn't in my stitch. We agreed to everything and we have both stuck to it. Except for the retirement thing, but that is another matter. I have mixed feelings about it.

Anyway. Hope you are having a good evening.

Melissa

[AFWAW]

Oh, I will be at the bank in the morning when it opens! I shouldn't take delight in this case but I can't help it after the way she's treated me over the last 2 months. It almost feels liberating because I know that if she was still here and everything was fine, we would have almost no money still. I swear, I look on-line at my account 3-4 times a day now because I can't believe that I have money still. And I'm drinking good beer and my daughter and I have steak at least 2 times per week. We however don't eat out. And I've been taking my lunch almost everyday. The beautiful thing about the retirement sitch for me is that she is military also, so if she gets half mine, then I get half hers--so basically, it's a wash.

[PortlandDad]

Hey AF,
I too seem to be awash with filthy lucre these days since the W left. I'm actually putting money in the bank instead of taking it out! Me and the kids got new cell phones, new clothes and we eat decently, too. Amazing how by her leaving I seem to have about double the disposable income that I had before.

So how is your weekend shaping up?

[Mellenmack]

PS. Don't forget to change your direct deposit. Or. What you should do is: Leave the old account open. Transfer as much as you can to the new account. Leave enough in the old account to cover the outstanding. Go to vMPF or whereever (can't remember) to change your direct deposit account. And then leave the accounts alone until the direct deposit starts going into the new account. It shouldn't take too long. Don't use the old account after you transfer everything out of it. Make sure you remember to transfer new paychecks into the new account...there is no point in that money sitting there in an account with both your names on it.

Yeah, I worked at the bank for 3.5 years.

Melissa

[AFWAW]

Yep,
gonna take care of it today. I'm still perplexed as to the wife's statement of yesterday. She must think she is in control still as I just recently stopped pursuing for real. It's strange how weird it feels when you actually stop. My friend in Iraq told me to watch for the other shoe to drop now that I've pretty much decided she will not come back until we address some problems and she is committed to making some changes together. Based on our past history, I suspect she will become quite angry. I'm trying to stay positive about a reconcilliation here but I keep going over the positives of her being gone the past few days.
1. I'm far more relaxed around the house as I don't have to answer to anyone--no one bitches at me
2. Laundry is a snap as my daughter does her own and I do mine
3. I actually have money in my account which has taken a ton of stress off me--I was always worried before
4. I find that my confidence in myself is returning rapidly--I go to the gym or run everyday!--no need to rush home to appease the wife
and the list goes on and on.

So why am I saying all this? Believe it or not, I'm beginning to wonder if this isn't such a bad thing. We'll see how I feel later, but for right now I don't feel that awful--strange???

[Coach]

Believe it or not, I'm beginning to wonder if this isn't such a bad thing. We'll see how I feel later, but for right now I don't feel that awful--strange???

"That which doesn't kill me makes me stronger."

The choice is yours.

[AFWAW]

Feels weird to have a choice. Doesn't feel like I've had one for a while.

[dburt]

I see some positve stuff coming your way!

Burt

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Feels weird to have a choice. Doesn't feel like I've had one for a while.