Detatching is doing things for yourself, going out with friends, going to the gym. For me, I am 40 years old, I had not worked out sense college. Played football and hated every minute of having to work out. I started 2 weeks after she hit me with the bomb(1-7 or so). I ran my first 5k last weekend. Lost 15 lbs, actually have some definition that she took notice almost imediatley. Still go out every friday at 4 pm to meet some guys for happy hour. (Yay, its Friday!)
I would have not left the house, as my wife wanted me to leave the house, and I said, I do not want to leave, you do, so you leave and you can see the kids whenever you want, she did not like this at all.
Doing 180's is alot easier to do and be noticed if the WAW is in the house. I would try to work something out. The kids need 2 parents all the time, and if you could work it out and promise to give her space while she is there, that would be an excellent thing.
She can have a spare room, Sleep in your own bed, and tell her that you are not leaving the house next time it comes up, just say, nah, I'll stay out of your way, this is my house, I am not leaving it. Be strong, women like that.
Detatch, it means do things for yourself and not her, if she notices the differences in your life and comes back great, if not your a better person anyway, it is a win/win.
