No we don't have children. I am 42 my H is 41. I can understand the draw to Canada and H has been talking about doing this, but I have been hesitant about moving away from family and I made the biggest verbal mistake I've ever made. When H was obviously trying to talk with me seriously about moving to Canada I made the mistake of saying "How do you know it would be any better moving there"? That statement to him was about the worst thing I could ever had said because to him that shot down his dream, goal, whatever. My comment was simply just that leaving what you have you never know if something else would be better. I never meant to say it would not be, etc. So, when I told him if it was very important to him he was the most important thing in my life and I would go anywhere. However, his response was if we moved together he would still be with me. H felt he maybe needed to move alone, throwing my off hand comment back in my face over and over again.
H has visited Montreal and spent time with some new friends he met and they in turn live in a building where people visit eachother, make food for eachother, go out to different concerts and events. He likes the social lifestyle and varying conversations. He loves to talk, debate, learn, etc. Our current situation we live and work together and no doubt that is a bit of a restraint.
So much more to tell, but to your question, I can totally understand at this point in our lives, with really no obligation than to each other to want to go and explore the world - 'cause life is short. I probably am too set in my ways and even though I in no way intended to cut him off with my offhand comment I seem to have done just that. I am glad a guy is answering because I would like to know how you think and when you may act on your fantasy and if you share those fantasies with your spouse.
