It is a very good feeling that other around support you and see that they are the crazy one and not you. Don't you find you appreciate your friends and family more? Luv em! I have found the no contacting H and GALing very empowering. Keep up the good work!
Me:44 H:40 D:14 S:12 Bomb: 12/08 & 12/04 H moved out 2/09
It is a very good feeling that other around support you and see that they are the crazy one and not you. Don't you find you appreciate your friends and family more? Luv em! I have found the no contacting H and GALing very empowering. Keep up the good work!
All of that is so true. I find myself appreciating everything more, in that way this experience has been good for me. I'm grateful for what I have in my life so much that I used to take for granted!!!
All so true... I feel great being supported and I just love, even more now, my family in-law. I couldn't ask for better people. All except for H's aunt who seems to be tight with OW but that is expected since her man of 20+ years was another woman's H that she stole and we still don't even know if he has divorced the woman. They now have 3 kids together who don't like their father. And apparently he treats her like crap too, so nananana, look what she stole. Cheaters never win!!!
Anyway, journaling, still living my life, being strong and thinking less about H. I know these posts may get redundant but I need to do this to keep myself accoutable so please bear with me. Trying to break this bad habit.
Wishing everyone well in the dark. One day we will be able to turn the lights back on. Not sure who will be there for us to see but the lights will be on again one day.
So, H is calling but not leaving any messages. But don't worry, I got this. I'm staying dark for me. I know he's only calling to say crap and to make sure he can still cake eat.
I was thinking that I need to make sure I stay strong on this. This is one boundary I set and I asked him to respect so if I give in, what would that mean for me garnering respect from this man and the boundary setting process, right? So, I'm doing this for sure!!
I know for me the longer I go without contacting H the stronger and more confident I become. It's when I have contact with him that I feel like a big pile of mush.
You can do this!
Me:44 H:40 D:14 S:12 Bomb: 12/08 & 12/04 H moved out 2/09
Yea, Bean. Same here. Once I'm in contact, I then get all softy and made a fool of since there has been no progress made. And all the while he just contacts to fill his need to feel like he still has me right where he wants me. Nope, not this time buster!!
Thanks for the laugh Pup. I know he will come with some pull crap as usually. It will probably be "I plan on coming home" or some other nonesense. With no substantive details or anything.
Yes, I need that treath of a 2x6!! because history has shown that I'm a fool. But I'm trying to change that this time around b/c I'm the only one who comes out bruised.
So if you know what he's going to do/say ahead of time (and we usually DO know our spouses better than anyone else does!), then why not plan NOW how you want to react to it?
