Thanks TL for stopping by with your kindness. I am just waiting for the mailman to deliver my movies so I can watch some family movies with the kids.
I don't want to go back to work tomorrow, but I have to. Not that the job is bad, but after I have been out for a week, so much to catch up on. Who wouldn't want to sit around vs working anyway.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
ANew and BH thanks for your input. Tomorrow won't work, since I actually have to work, but you are both right my life needs to change and for the better or I will be sitting here a year from now saying the same thing. BH I have nothing to lose.
BH I am so motivated to lose 10 pounds. Not for my h, but for me. I really like how my clothes are fitting now that I have been working out. I will make plans for me, not for my h and change things up.
I think I will take the kids to the gym tonight. It's a great way to spend time with them and I get a work-out in too.
Thanks for that outside perspective. Sometimes you are just so close to the situation that you can't see the forest for the trees.
Glam. Motivation for YOU is the strongest and best motivation there is! Losing 10 lbs. is great, you will knock that out before you know it!!! Be careful to not get too thin, that can be harmful to you!
I hope you had a nice and relaxing week-end. I can imagine that you don't feel like going back to work, but I hope you had a good day at work despite it.
Thank you for your continuous support on my thread.
Hi glam- Thanks for your post on my thread. I hope you are doing okay. It sounds like your H's job situation is causing him to go back in the tunnel. I know it has to be frustrating for you. Hopefully you are keeping up with your workouts and doing things for you. Stay focused on all the positives in your life and continue to find to try to find compassion for your H.
Trying to get a grip on my own life these days. Doing lots of spring cleaning.
My h is off once again in the deep dark tunnel. Hardly surfaces at all. Blew off his Dr appointment. Blew off his chiropractic appointment. No notice to the Dr, 45 min to the chiro.
I am sure he is not trying to be disrespectful, but I view him as disrespectul and rude. He wants and commands respect, but can't even give that to professionals. So I know it's just not me, but it's all of those he touches in his life. This was not my h throughout our M, but guess this is who he is now.
He did make it over yesterday. That was the first day since Sunday. I had to work a little late, and of course he complained. I almost lost it at that point. Give me a break, I take very good care of our children and all he could say was that's too late to come home, can't you work from home. I just shook my head and can't even fathom his thoughts right now. Oh too bad h, you HAD to spend an hour and a half longer with our children in our home. My gosh you might get a disease if you stay too long.
When he left he said I am going to sleep all day on Friday. Hmmmmm I just can't take what and who he is now. So as you can see nothing to report, but more depression and the deep dark tunnel.
It's not ok for h's behavior, but I am just focused on myself, my home and our wonderful children.
Thanks everyone for stopping by, this can get discouraging. I am keeping up with my workouts Upside. I think I am going to start boxing a punching bag and take out all that agression I have inside instead of unleashing it to h.
It's sad though my h doesn't want to share his life with me. If he would open up and communicate there wouldn't be these big blow-ups and disrespect if he simply would call and say Glam this is what I am doing. I don't expect you to understand, but this is what I need to do. This is in relation to something that happened with his work mess. He really blind sideded me and left me in the dark. He had a plan when he left on Sunday and then changed that plan midstream and then didn't bother to inform me.
I guess I am not that important, just somebody he stops in to visit now and then and calls on occasion.
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Oh Glam, (((()))) I am sorry things took a backwards turn. You deserve so much more after all the love, kindness and infinate patience you have shown. You are doing the right things by just getting on with your life and that is truly all you can do for you and your children. What H does or doesn't do is up to him now. So sad but true and maybe one day he will realize just what he lost but it isn't happening anytime soon. Our professionals charge if you miss appointments without at least 48hrs notice, so he was lucky. He might not be so lucky when he trys to make new appointments but thats his problem. One day at a time and no expectations of him in your life at all. You will manage and have a good life with or without him. Take care.
GG, sorry h is back in the tunnel. He still needs to work out a lot of stuff. Hard as it is, please dont take it personally. It really isnt about you, but about the demons he is battling.
Pull back some. Let him be. Most importantly, do not let his moods affect your day.
