Have you thought about getting a second opinion on your divorce? Consulting with several reputable lawyers during the divorce process is common and helpful because they act as a sounding board, can give some direction, is confidential and lets you know how your lawyer is doing. Parrino out of Westport is very expensive but as a consult could give you an idea of what is fair, what can be attained.
I love your sense of humor but am so sorry about its core.
*hugs*
Oh yes.. my lawyer went through my bill ($40K just for me!) and felt comfortable signing off on $820. Although it's not a huge number it shows how much personal risk a LAWYER is willing to take when providing documentation after the fact.
Consider asking your lawyer to break out the fees as tax advice and legal counsel.
