he tells me of strong resolve to work on the marriage, but also says he feels he cannot move right back in and expect to jump into our old life like that. he wants to work on things but not move in full time and i do not know how to handle it. we are at a very critical point, we have agreed to have him change jobs to get out of his environment where the affair took place. we are working on opening a business to start fresh but im nervous because he isnt sure about moving in right away. i told him i dont want to be scammed i dont want him to have one foot in this world and one foot out. i told him everything and he stands firm of his intentions to focus on us and the business.

do i insist he moves home or allow us to work on it without him jumping back home?

me: 31
H:29
Son:5
m:8 years in november
t:10 years
first bomb: 10/06
moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08
ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06
d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08
moved home:3/09 out again 5/09