Partner left after 9 yrs - I finally detached!??

[naej]

Ah Maria, they do that in the UK too at least out my way but then 2 come along together!

[RefuseToLose]

Ali,

Although you are unsure of what you're feeling, you are in a very good place.

Don't feel badly about thinking about the ex ex just because of what happened tonight.

Your xBF may still not be ready to take the plunge again, or he may. Like Kalni said, just go w/the flow and let it happen.

Don't stress or worry. Go out and have fun. Let him lead himself to you. If he's ready, he'll let you know.

Whatever happens, please remember that you won't be able to solve this puzzle quickly, especially in one night.

Wow! This is exciting news for you! Go w/it and have a blast.

We'll all be waiting to hear what happens next.

RTL

[kat727]

That is so awesome. Just have fun and don't put undo pressure on you or him. Are your stars all ligned up?

kat

[AliSuddenly]

Hi kids!...Yep, tommorow, Venus is exact squared Pluto. Does anyone remember me banging on about that? I listed all the dates in this 2+ year pluto-venus cycle, it was exact on days he met her, the bomb, the day he moved out, the day he dated her, etc... all on dates that pluto opposed, conjunct or squared Venus? Well, the squares always 'favoured' me it seemed and its exact tommorow!! And the NNode is on my Venus. Phew.

Honestly.. I am not sure how I feel about it !! It got better as time went on.. I think my defences are up, but I noticed myself looking at his lips and wishing I could kiss them, so suppose thats a good sign?

Neaj.. its par for the course, he didnt tell me he was SEEING helen in the first place, he just allowed his mates to tell me that, down the pub, so not surprised. He will talk I expect, as he will be drinking tommorow.

I'm just pretty freaked out. I am glad we will all be going out tommorow night though, it will be like life is 'normal' again, I will see his brother, I will get to meet his house mate James at last..

oh and he gave me his phone number! in typical wierdly deliberate style.. I asked him if he was ok? He did that, ohhh.. I'm ok... I guess... I waited and eventually he said he is and he isnt, he is sometimes, but not really others, and something like, this is him, you know what I am like and that he accepts that he will be probably be like this for the rest of his life (he's had depression on and off all his adult life, but it never really bothered me.. but then it was a shock to hear him admit the extent of it and yes.. Cyrena said that didnt you, I would have to take that on for life too).. anyway.. (sorry,rambling!) I thought I would be brave and said, well I dont have your nunmber now, but you could call me for a chat.. and he quick as a flash said, yes you do now.. it will be on your phone when I called you...

so he rang from home to my mobile.. so he has 'given' me his number.

Seriously, I'm pretty wierded out and dont know how I feel! See how tommorow goes I guess. All I could think earlier was, well, that would solve my financial/living problems if we got back together !!! Is that the wrong attitude !? Hey and thanks everyone...for 'being' here for me tonight.

[MichelleLT]

(((Ali)))

I think I am almost caught up on you LOL.

Some very interesting developments.

Great baby steps that he invited you out and came by for dinner and did the papers!!!!!

Just remember, no expectations.

IF he did end it with Helen, he needs to mourn and be okay on his own. He needs to realize he is complete on his own, and choose to come back to you cuz he wants to, not out of loneliness.

Just my thoughts.

[JCJ]

Ali

That is so great. You handled it so well. Obviously you are going to be absolutely fabulous tonight darling. Be your fun, gorgeous witty self

I'm so happy for you!

Jx

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Julia.. I really dont know how I feel about it..kind of underwhelmed.. and last night I couldnt sleep for dreaming about my ex ex, the Piscean, so I am feeling a little confused. It was the way he looked at me, so real and open and expressive and EXCITED.. but my now ex (the Leo) when he came over last night.. nothing, nada. He just looked a bit upset and tired and down and GAURDED. I geuss as Cyrena explains, he is still in the tunnel! At the door he hugged me goodbye tightly for ages and I thought he was never going to let go! He said over my shoulder "Its great to see you Al" (he never used to say that!) and I was shocked and said sort of absent mindedly "is it?" and he sort of laughed and said, yes, of course it is..

I have suspected these last few weeks that I have built up resentments to him, which is bad, and a wall to him. I hadnt before, but he pushed me too far lately, not calling even for so long. If he had made a move a little sooner, it would have been ok, but now, I am not so sure. See how it goes tonight hey!

Cher said I should make sure I look gorgeous tonight.. and my stars for today are spoooooky !!!

An important date or appointment is indicated, and you must pay special attention to the way you look, and the way you dress. Your future depends on it! Be nice to Leos, they can change your destiny.

[Kalni]

Be nice to Leos? Ha ha!!! Are you writing these horoscopes?
K

Good Luck!

[mishka422]

OMG! Seriously? Those are your stars today? FREAKY!

Honestly, I'm afraid to look at my stars because I'm always sure it's going to say, "Stay in the house! You're doomed!"

You're guarded with your ex? Good. You need to be somewhat guarded. It doesn't mean that you can't love him still, it just means that you have learned some mechanisms to keep him from hurting you quite as badly as he has again. At least that's my opinion of it. Self-preservation does usually win out over feelings of love or hate.

I'll look forward to hearing how this evening goes.

[MsMelancoly]

Hey Ali, Good luck tonight!!! Have fun & be cool!!!